This is simply a common situation that most couples find themselves in after being together for a few years. You might begin to take each other for granted.
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Small, unprocessed arguments start to stack up and resentment quietly builds, like a subtle din in your partnership. Like anything worth having, getting the spark back is going to require a bit of effort. Effort that is well worth it. Spiderman said that.
I would encourage you to only use these techniques with men who you are in a relationship with, or are seriously invested in having commit to you. On to the man-melting magic tips! But if you get out of your head, drop into your body, and slow down the pacing with which you speak, this will draw him more deeply to you in an instant. Just slow your speech down a bit compared to whatever your authentic, natural pace would be otherwise. Sound too good to be true?
Try it out. One of the greatest gifts that the feminine can give to the masculine is to invite it back into the realm of the senses. Or rubbing his shoulders for a moment. The feminine reminds the masculine about life. It reminds the masculine that life is happening, right now… not far off in the future when goals and accomplishments are achieved. But today, in this very moment. Be a positive force that brings him back to his body, and he will begin to associate his presence, groundedness, and connection to his body with your positive influence in his life.
I will give examples of each of these two things. Say your man feels heavily identified with the work that he does in the world not at all uncommon for a modern man. When was the last time you complimented your partner in regards to his career? Have you told him that you find his passion sexy? If yes, recently?
Have you told him that you find his dedication to mastery in his work life attractive? Have you told him that you love how lit up he gets when he talks about his job? If not, why not? What things is your unique man particularly insecure about that you are aware of? Are any of those insecurities mind boggling to you?
If this is the case, tell him. Let it be known.
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Again, the compliment being genuine matters above all else. Sit down, write up a list of things you love about him, and then make a concerted effort to bring one of those things to him once per week for a few months, and watch him grow in his confidence and his connection to you.
Alright, here comes another winner. The adoption or ignorance of this one small but necessary shift in communication can make or break a relationship. They complain about their partner being a nag. An intimate relationship needs some sense of polarity in order to function well. Here are some examples of what most people do, and what is a more beneficial way of going about those same situation. The latter gives the man the opportunity to respond to your statement by doing something about it that he gets to make the decision on.
The common through line in these examples is that the person asking is speaking from their feelings cold, hungry, desire for funas opposed to making direct demands.
Want more tips on how to communicate with your man in a way that deeply resonates with him? Check this out. Ultimately, there is nothing more attractive than a person who is brimming with their own authentic joy. And, unfortunately, the only way out is through. If you feel misaligned, stuck, or stagnant in your life, you have to do the hard work of getting yourself unstuck. Only you know where your true bliss lives. When you prioritize yourself in this way, and set up your life so that you are brimming with joy, there is no greater gift you can give to yourself, and to your partner.
Remember, you are both ultimately responsible for your own happiness. If you tend to second guess your man endlessly in your head or out loudhe will inevitably feel this and slowly grow to resent you. The masculine wants to be trusted deeply. Instead of questioning his every decision, give your partner the benefit of the doubt. Make generous assumptions about how he moves through his life.
But only if you truly trust the man you are with. Trust his masculine direction, and drop in to your full feminine flow.
Let his presence penetrate all the way to your heart. Fully surrender to the moment and trust in the way that he wants to make love to you in that moment.
Let go fully, and your sexual and emotional connection will improve. Trust that everything he is doing is coming from a place of love, and he is doing his absolute best.
All he wants to do is please you and serve your heart so that it is filled with love. Trust in his process for how he attempts to get to that goal. If your mind starts to backslide into judgment, fear, control, or anxiety, then take a deep breath, and soften back into trust.
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The ego loves control. The mind loves control. But not the heart. The heart knows nothing of control. It trusts fully. It loves fully. So take a vacation from perpetually being on guard… judging and trying to control the moment… and drop in to your heart. Trust your man totally, in moments of your choosing, and he will feel inspired to act like your king more often. You become more attractive to your man by embracing your sense of feminine aliveness.
Bolstering your inner radiance. Getting in touch with your own heart and allowing it to shine brightly through how you show up in your life, and by extension, in your relationship. Getting in touch with your feminine energy can often be difficult for certain women for a of reasons.
The short version of it is this: cultivate your relationship to your inner feminine.
Move your body. Wear things that make you feel beautiful. Make space for play and lightness in your life. Allow yourself to receive in different areas of your life gifts, massages, meals, people holding space for you, etc. Or, if connecting to your inner feminine looks nothing like the above list, then trust that and do what feels right for you.
Most men enjoy being the initiators of things. Date nights, sex, adventures. But having this responsibility fall squarely on their shoulders can feel tiresome over time. In fact, you should probably lean back and give your partner space to initiate with you more often. But in many relationships at least the ones that my clients I interact with are inthe men initiate the majority of the sexual encounters.
In that dynamic, you would then take on more of the masculine polarity and it might depolarize your connection rather rapidly. If your partner responds well, keep it up. In essence, putting effort into your hygiene says that you care about yourself.
2. he doesn’t need to like the same things you do.
You care about yourself enough to put energy into the daily maintenance of your body. In the same way that you can turn a messy bedroom into a tidy one with minutes of daily upkeep, so too can you transform an unkempt appearance into an attractive, pleasant smelling, nice to touch exterior. In many ways, this is a blessing. We can finally let go of the self-obsession and anxiety that comes part and parcel with constantly fretting over our appearance. Often, when it comes to perfumes and colognes, you get what you pay for. As with anything to do with grooming and hygiene, individual preferences will vary, so choose whatever you and your partner most enjoy.
Sure, skip some days when it makes sense to. But, as a rule, treat your daily washing as just as non-negotiable as feeding yourself. If you eat a diet that largely consists of processed junk, then that will influence how you smell every day.