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Maybe you and a partner love each other intensely but have too many differences to sustain a lasting partnership. Regardless of the situation, love is a complicated emotion. In fact, the ability to hold on to hope in difficult or painful situations is typically considered a of personal strength. The person you love may not feel the same way. Or maybe you feel wildly in love during intimate moments but spend the rest of your time together disagreeing over just about everything.

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How do I get over this? You're advice is greatly appreciated, guys. First, thanks to everyone who takes the time to read this, and to those who leave me your advice. I'm asking the guys of Metafilter, because as we all have come to know, the filter is amazing - and I wanted to get a strictly male perspective on things to be fair, I'm also posting this in an exclusive gal-filter.

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I've recently experienced a breakup with a girl I've spent the last year of my life with. She's amazing, wonderful, and I venture to say, we were perfect for each other. I'm a fairly recent grad, and I had to move a few hours away for the career, and it turns out the distance was too much for her.

I've been in many relationships, ranging from casual to ificantly serious. This was probably the most serious I've ever been in - I'd catch myself trying to picture what our children would look like, I put her on my life insurance policy and I still can't bring myself to take her off - I want her taken care of, you know? Usually when a relationship falls apart, I'd have the normal guy's night out, have a few brews and talk about how woman are plight on all mankind etc etc, and a few days later be on my merry way. I don't know why this one is different.

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I can only phrase it as "heart-sick. I'm a resilient guy; I've had the fortune of having a tumultuous life, and I've learned the lesson of rolling with the punches, picking myself off the mat and barreling through the next wall.

I'm rarely phased by things, I guess I'm trying to say.

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I wake up, and my first thought is off her. I catch myself staring at my phone, hoping that it lights up with a message from her. I've tried my damnedest to pull away, move on, stop loving her.

Stop fighting for someone who doesn't love you.

I can't, or haven't figured out how for this gal, and its killing me. It seems one popular way of getting over a past love is to start dating someone new; I myself have experience with that one - this time, I can't help but feel like I'm betraying our former, I know love, and doing a disservice to the other girl I'd be starting a new relationship with.

I hope this makes sense. I don't blame you if you can't make he or tails of it; Most days I don't even know what I'm doing anymore. I'm a young man, and I'd appreciate anyone's advice. That said, advice anyone? Great thanks, and my best to you all. Response by poster: Also, I wasn't aware that we are allowed one question per week, so they girl's-perspective companion question to this will have to wait.

Best laid plans as they say, right? Tell her this. If she doesn't respond, move on. Best answer: Oh man, that's a tough one. Good thing ruined by something that wasn't part of the relationship. You are going to continue to feel the pain as long as you think of her. Try to set your mind on other things. Work, hobby, whatever. I used to live in the gym after I broke up with the perfect girl, also due to long distance. It only helped a little - twenty years later, I still think about her, but at least the pain isn't there.

I got into real good shape, and met the woman who would become my wife! It's really important to focus on your inner monologue - self-talk. Think about what you are are thinking about, and try to stop any negative thoughts. Not that your ex is a negative, but apply the same vigilance.

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Force yourself to think positive things - make it a habit. That should help. Also, try and date again. Nothing like the hair of the dog that bit you. Seriously, a new relationship - short or otherwise - will help a LOT. Just don't talk much about the ex with the new friend. The pain will come to the surface, and you won't be helping yourself. Just my two cents : posted by Xoebe at PM on September 19, [ 2 favorites ].

People make extreme statements when they're in pain or they're close friends are. Response by poster: You're right! That's what I meant though - thanks! The thing is, they're right. Everything you've described here -- I can't move on, I feel like I'm betraying her, I wonder what our kids will look like, it's not as insightful as I need -- all of it, are just stories in your head.

Stories you're telling yourself.

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Stories you are choosing to tell yourself. None of it -- none of it -- is real. Tomorrow, choose to do something else. Every time you catch yourself drifting, do something else. Wow, look, a tree! I miss her. I'm going to go run around the block. I'm going to learn how to properly iron my shirts.

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No one belongs to anyone else. Get used to it, for life. Me again. I used to be you. I have one more anecdote. I never got a tattoo, because I was always afraid of the idea of their permanence. What if I hate it 20 years from now?

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And I would have enjoyed my tattoo that entire time. It would have been cool. But I was a wuss.

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So when you ask yourself, "If I move on, will I have betrayed her," you have to keep in mind that you have nothing, and more importantly, you have nothing right now. Move on and get something. Get it NOW. Because now won't exist 20 years from now. Response by poster: fourcheesemac What do you mean by this? I never meant to imply some twisted idea of ownership - however, we were incredibly compatible, and I believe given the right situation, perfect for the long haul. A clarification would be greatly appreciated, I guess.

Speaking as a woman who moved miles away from my family, friends and home to be with the man I love: stop torturing yourself. If you love someone, you find a way to make it work your career was more important than your relationship, her whatever-that-kept-her-where-she-is was more important than your relationship, so be it! As Cool Papa Bell says, you are telling yourself stories.

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You choose your paths in life. You can choose to have this woman be the great, dramatic One That Got Away, or recognize that you had some fun for a while, that it was nice while it lasted, but it obviously wasn't anything more. My now-husband and I did the long distance thing for a year and a half, and we have been married for seven years now - if you really love someone, and are really committed to it, you make it work however you can, clearly neither you nor your ex were committed enough to the relationship to make it work, there's no shame in that, but try to see the facts here for the truth that they are: you are letting yourself be blinded by your imagination, stop blowing this out of proportion, get over it and move on with your life.

First loves always hurt. And by "always" I mean both invariably and perpetually. Welcome to the club, we've been waiting for you. Best answer: You have to confront the idea that you were incredibly compatible and perfect for the long haul, analyze it, and see that it's false. And it's false because she has said goodbye to you. No matter how good anyone seems to be, not wanting to be with you is a major drawback. A deal killer. As one of the mods here, please don't do this.